is Crucial for your Wedding Speech
By Alex Berez
Preparation is crucial in your
wedding Speech Maid of Honor
Attention Maid of Honor,
I know that you are supposed to prepare a wedding
Don’t panic! I understand the way you must
be feeling, but trust me; you are not the only
person nervous about the wedding so you are not
I would like to provide some advice: If you really
want to succeed in your wedding speech, you should
focus in a very important stage: preparation of
the wedding speech.
The one thing you don't want to do on the day
of the wedding is stand up to make your speech
and try to “wing” it. Trying to make
a speech up off the top of your head is a recipe
for disaster. Chances are you'll forget what you
wanted to say, ramble on about unrelated matters,
and say some things you may later wish you hadn't.
“Now wait,” you may be saying, “I've
seen plenty of people who did great jobs and they
seemed to be giving a completely spontaneous speech.”
Fair enough, but the key word here is “seemed.”
The majority of speeches we see, especially the
ones that appear to be spontaneous and unplanned,
are just the opposite. These speeches have been
planned to such an extent that the speaker can
deliver them so that it appears the words are
coming to him off the top of his head. This type
of speaking is known as extemporaneous.
Extemporaneous speaking allows you to plan out
what you want to say but also forces you to practice
it so that you can deliver your words with only
a handful of notes instead of a word-for-word
manuscript. There are a number of reasons why
extemporaneous speaking is the best choice for
a wedding speech:
• Because you aren't reading a manuscript,
you will be able to make eye contact with guests
which adds a sense of sincerity and warmth to
• Because you aren't making the speech up
as you go along, you can make sure to include
all of the points you want to make. You won't
leave anything out.
• Because you are going to practice the
speech, you'll feel more comfortable with the
words and with the delivery. By the time you're
ready for the actual speech, you'll be prepared.
• Because people tend to sound monotone
when they read something word for word aloud,
extemporaneous speaking sounds more natural and
more pleasing to the audience's ears.
For this reason, it is crucial that you prepare
your wedding speech. Remember, the bride and the
groom will remember your wedding speech forever.
Knowledge is power, and the more you “know”
what you are going to say, the more you will succeed
during your wedding speech. My best recommendation
is: A hot tea (or coffee), your favorite music
as background, and 5 minute meditation and reflection
before you begin writing your wedding speech.
Good luck in your wedding speech!
Alex Berez is author of Wedding Speeches 101
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